What’s much more important than the area of study is the result achieved and how you can demonstrate what you were studying has equipped you with skills you will take forward into a career. All degree subjects require some level of research skills, analysing information, working in groups effectively, presenting information in a way which makes it clear for others. The important aspect of any application is understanding these skills and how they’re relevant for the job to which you’re applying.

Skills acquired outside of your studies are also important. Have you been part of a society? Had a part time job? Involved with a sports team? Done voluntary work? All of these activities show that you’ve stretched yourself, put yourself in positions where you acquire new skills and developed yourself outside a purely academic space.

Work experience is really important. However, it doesn’t necessarily have to be relevant work experience. It’s about being able to talk about any work experience and the skills you have acquired and used and applying those to a new role. What skills did you pick up that will make you great for the graduate role you’re applying to?

If you study what you love, your degree will feel less like hard work and more like a series of fascinating questions.
Degree is the theoretical evaluation of an abstract concept which is virtually not possible. It is the skill that helps the person to grow up both materially / financially and immaterially with respect to the status, importance, social respect and recognition etc. Degree definitely has its own importance, as a person need to have some skill in order to achieve the degree. A complete dumb individual cannot qualify to attain the degree. Hence , we can summarize by saying that the degree is the first step in the ladder of skills which leads to the success in life.

Let’s face it. Many of us choose to hang on to things that at some point have hurt us, angered us, made us feel sad, or depressed us. If we choose to hang on to them, we will never move forward and we could even create physical or medical damage to our bodies. To prevent this from happening we need to let go but no one really tells you how to let go and move forward. Sure it’s easy to say: “Just let go, move forward, forget about it, just let go.” But that really doesn’t work.

Why You Need to Let Go and Move Forward.

Throughout our lives we go through different experiences, some are positive and some we see as negative and unpleasant. When you hang on to a negative or unpleasant experience you are constantly thinking about it. And when you constantly think about that negative event you prevent yourself from healing. How many pleasant memories do you recall everyday? Chances are you’re like most people and you have a number of unpleasant experiences that you’re holding on to, which is preventing you from moving forward.

The more you carry the worse life gets. Why? Because you’ve filled your mind up with negative experiences, because you continually hang on to something that doesn’t allow you to move forward, in short, you’re carrying useless baggage that’s really slowing you down.

Think of it this way: you’re on a hiking trip and along the way you keep picking up heavy objects, things that really don’t serve you. After a while, these objects begin to slow you down and unless you get rid of them, you’ll never complete your trip.

To let go you have to get your mind to focus on different goals and different objectives. It’s not about saying: I let go of the pain from my fight with —- and move on. That will help, but if you really want to start moving on, then you have to get your mind to focus on new things, in the process you automatically let go of the things that have been slowing you down.

How to Let Go and Move Forward

Researchers believe that that if you hold on to negative feelings, sad emotions or depressing memories there is a possibility that you could reshape the human cell to the point where your thoughts of the past have a negative effect on your cells and your physical health.

Hanging on to negative past events is a process that can destroy your life in ways you’re not even aware of. Ask yourself these questions: Do the negative things you hang on to serve you any purpose? Do they help you move forward? Do they work in your favor in any way? If you said no to any or all of the above then tell yourself this: This emotion/feeling doesn’t help me so I’m letting it go and focusing on what is important. Then begin focusing on what you want next, focus on what is important and what can improve your life. This is a simple process that gets the mind moving in a new direction and you stop building negative energy created from the negative events/emotions, which only attracts more negative situations. When you begin focusing on more positive things you begin attracting positive situations.

The next step is to create an action plan, the past is over. Where do you want to go now and how do you plan to get there? You may not have the answers but merely thinking about the options forces your mind to go in a new direction and you automatically let go of unwanted feelings and emotions.

The key to your success is to train your mind to move in a new direction so you send new messages to your subconscious mind, which then brings you the opportunities to move forward.

The final step is to live in the present moment, to start living in the now. Living in the now is different than living for the moment. Living in the now is the process of enjoying everything that is going on at this present moment. Take a look around you and appreciate those things that you once thought were trivial. When you are here now you can be nowhere else. You are not hanging on to something, you are here now. I know some of you may say the following: “But , where I am right now really sucks, I don’t want to think about it.” It only sucks because you’re looking at all the negative things going on. Focus on a few of the positive things anything from nature to the wonderful family you may have. This forces your mind to look at things differently and tells your subconscious mind that you’re ready for new possibilities, then you’ll begin to let go and move forward.

What is it that you most want, but are afraid of speaking up about? Has there been something that you’ve kept locked away from all your friends and family members simply because of a fear of being judged or ridiculed? Is there some sort of secret fantasy life you wish to live yet you don’t know how to go about getting it?

Our whole purpose in life is to do exactly what we wish to do. What makes us truly happy. Not what our ego wishes for, or what our parents or friends wish for… but what our core being is both made up of and is fueled by. Sometimes, the biggest hurdle keeping us from living the authentic and passionate life we are dreaming of are our own self-limiting beliefs. We get caught up in our heads and societal pressures to be one thing when we know it isn’t who we are.

Who’s going to stick up for you? Who’s going to fight your battles if you don’t? The most amazing, exhilarating freedom can come about when we face our fears and move confidently in the direction of our future. Sometimes, all it takes is the smallest step in order for all the doors to open. And once those doors are open and the light is beckoning you from the other side, you just have to run and jump through. You don’t hesitate… you jump. That’s what this life is about. It’s important to make the jump and take chances. Chance is a yummy recipe for miracles.

In order to get ready to make that jump, you need to get comfortable with yourself. You need to be honest and figure out what it is that keeps you from living truthfully and going after what you most desire. Usually, at the core of this issue are the ideas of others. Whether you were once told that it was impossible for you to do something, or whether others expect you to live a certain type of life – that is usually our greatest detriment as people.

But who cares? No – really? Who cares about what other people say? They aren’t the ones fighting for you at the end of the day, you are. The only person you need to be happy with when you’re going to sleep at night is yourself. So let’s get to the core of it all and unplug from our false beliefs about ourselves! I want you to get to the core of you.

When you’re ready, the universe will step up and be ready with you. You’ll be presented with the opportunities to change once you decide to change. And like the light beckoning you to jump through the door of opportunity, you’ll find yourself meeting every opportunity and rising up to it. It’s time to rise up to yourself. Get clear on the life that you’re after… and… go get it. Off to the races!

When all else fails, hope is something that we cling to. It is a beacon that calls us at our highest and lowest moments in life. We share in the hope of others as well. At the final moment of despair, after you shed your last teardrop, you muster up hope.
Within you, you find the courage and the strength to get back up. Something is different when you arise; it is a new hope that has sprung alive. You muster up the courage to pull your thoughts together and look at things with a new perspective, one that will create a new avenue for you to go down.
With this new hope brings upon new dreams, new goals and a sense that everything will get better, and it will. Don’t worry if you have lost all hope, you can still get it back. You have to have the courage to find it within yourself. There is always hope, that is the one thing that no one can take from you. You only rob yourself of it by not believing in yourself.
For some, hope is moment to moment, or day by day. They are strong by continuing through their journey while odds are stacked against them. Through hope you can see yourself with new strength, new courage, and a sense that you can tackle anything that this crazy life throws at you.
Hope is like a huge piece of glass, beautiful yet frail. However you feel about it, the one thing that you should never do, is take someone’s hope away. Do not ever shatter their dream.
Hope is found everywhere! You just have to look for it. There might be days when you don’t feel it, or see it, but it’s there. Hope to me means that there is an underlying strength not yet found until something so overwhelming happens to you. It is a part of your soul that reassures you that you have what it takes to make it, and you will. The determination shines through once you find hope again.
No matter how large or how small you hope for, it can come true. Through your divine will, courage and determination, you can always have hope. Be kind and gentle souls that reach out and spread more hope where it is lacking.

Relationships aren’t just about togetherness and connection. They are also about the spaces of separateness. While togetherness time promotes greater understanding and connection between both partners, the times between experiences of connection are just as important to the health and sustainment of the relationship.  When partners are together, they naturally tend to be attentive (in varying degrees)  to the needs, concerns, and experiences of each other. This attentiveness is not only essential to the well-being of any relationship, but it is a natural aspect of the process of relating verbally or non-verbally, to another person. Since it’s not possible to direct our attention to more than one thing at a time, when we are  doing this (focusing on another’s words, behavior, desires, concerns, needs, or outward behavior), there can be a tendency to de-prioritze our own experience. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Too much attention to self can be as problematic (although it creates different problems) as too much attention to another. The former can promote excessive self-centeredness and an exaggerated sense of self-importance and a tendency to be pre-occupied with our own desires, while the latter predisposes us to neglect or diminish the importance of our own needs in favor of those of others.

Some of us are inclined to focus our attention on our partner, sometimes to the point at which we lose ourselves  in the process, often resulting in neglecting essential needs and concerns that require our attention. This is often done in the hope or with the expectation that our partner will reciprocate and give us the attention that we crave and in so doing, fulfill our needs and desires. As many of us have discovered the hard way, this expectation often is unfulfilled, frequently causing disappointment, resentment, and arguments.

If you’re someone who tends to focus more of your attention on your partner than yourself, chances are pretty good that you have attracted or do attract partners who do the opposite, that is focus more of their attention on themselves than on the relationship or at least more than you think they “should”. The opposite, of course, also applies. This pattern is governed by the law of complementarity; that is the  inclination to be drawn towards others whose tendencies complement or fit together in a way that creates a more complete or whole system. They provide a counterbalance to each other and in doing so prevent the relationship from becoming unstable and geared towards one extreme or another.

For example, the way that free-spenders often find themselves drawn towards penny-pinchers, or how introverts and extroverts find themselves in relationship, or how highly ambitious strivers can be attracted to relaxed, laid back pleasure-seekers, or how intimacy-cravers find themselves with solitude-lovers. Left to their own devices, or in relationship with another kindred spirit like themselves, those of either side of the equation would, in all likelihood be leading an unbalanced life, one that is always leaning towards whatever side their inclination lies, like a misaligned car.

A common combination that we see in many relationships is one in which one partner tends towards  more of a relationship-focus, and with a strong preference for togetherness, and although there is a wide-spread belief that in heterosexual relationships, that is generally the woman, we’ve found a great many exceptions to that “rule”. When the other partner has the opposite tendency, that is to seek out a greater degree of distance or solitude rather than connection, when overstressed, things can become strained and conflict can arise between them if one or both partners judge the other and attempts to coerce or shame him or her into compliance. This is more likely to occur if there is a tendency to view the other’s behavior as wrong or defective, rather than to appreciate the relationship’s need for more balance.

There are three sets of needs in any relationship. The needs of each individual, and the needs of the relationship. If any of these needs are neglected or unmet, an imbalance or disequilibrium will occur, causing both partners distress. Successful relationships require a willingness on the part of both partners to at times forego their personal preferences in favor of the well-being of the other or of the relationship itself. For this reason, when one person “wins” an argument by outwitting, intimidating, or out-lasting the other, the “loser’s” hurt or angry feelings will bleed into the relationship in a way that diminishes the “winner’s” “victory”. This is the basis of the claim that there are no winners when couples fight, unless they both come away satisfied with the outcome of the interaction.

The ability to recognize the positive contribution that one’s partner makes to the needs of the relationship, rather than holding the perspective that they are the cause of the “problem” is the core variable that determines whether the couple is headed for disaster or for greater mutual fulfillment.

When these two positions are present to the extreme (isolation or co-dependence) it’s often the case that they are polarizing each other by their reactions and counter-reactions and solidifying the relationship into an entrenched impasse. At these times, each partner is challenged to do his own work, which is for the person with the low need for connection to soften her boundaries and gradually allow for increasing degrees of emotionally intimate time to enter into the relationship. This process will be greatly facilitated when she feels trusting that she has the power to influence or even determine the rate and degree to which the connection process unfolds. For the person who seeks greater connection, his challenge is practice compassion, patience, and acceptance. The object of doing one’s own work is to create a greater internal balance between the impulse to individuate and the desire to connect and merge.

When we see that we have the perfect partner for helping us to become more familiar with this unfamiliar territory with which we have had less experience than that which is more familiar to us, we can become more appreciative of the gifts that the other is bringing to the relationship and to us personally. This movement away from viewing our partner as adversary to viewing him as an ally with whom we share the same intention, is the fundamental shift in the process of transforming our relationship from one characterized by struggle, to one grounded in gratitude and love. Despite our best efforts and strongest desires, decades-long patterns don’t change overnight, but the process begins as soon as we get clear that the time and effort that it’s going to take is worth it. If you’re in doubt, trust me, it is!

Breakfast on the Go?

Breakfast from some of the nation’s fast-food restaurants could be a high-fat, high-calorie affair. But most chains offer healthier options, too. Think about what you need: Even these “better bets” aren’t for everyone. Some still may have too much salt or calories for you

McDonald’s: Not the Best Choice

Take a pass on the Big Breakfast with Hotcakes. It packs 1,090 calories, 56 grams (g) fat, and 19 g saturated fat — over the daily limit for saturated fat for most people. Even the biscuit is loaded with saturated fat. The sodium hits 2,150 milligrams (mg), well over the daily limit of 1,500 mg for people who have high blood pressure or are particularly likely to get it — a group that includes most U.S. adults.

McDonald’s: Better Bets

The Egg McMuffin is a better choice under the golden arches at 290 calories, 12 g fat, 5 g saturated fat, and 4 g fiber. Lean Canadian bacon offers protein and a meaty taste with much less fat. Note that it’s high in sodium: 740 mg. You could choose the Egg White Delight McMuffin. It has 250 calories, 7 g fat, 3 g saturated fat, and 4 g fiber. But at 770 mg, it also has a lot of sodium.

Burger King: Not the Best Choice

Skip the Double Croissan’wich with Sausage & Bacon, which comes in at 580 calories, 39 g fat, 15 g saturated fat, and 1,250 mg sodium. Burger King stacks a sausage patty, thick bacon, double cheese, and eggs on a giant buttery croissant bun. Another one to pass up: the Double Croissan’wich with Double Sausage. It has 710 calories, 52 g fat, 19 g saturated fat, and 1,160 mg sodium.

Burger King: Better Bet

The Egg & Cheese Croissan’wich has 330 calories, 18 g fat, and 8 g saturated fat. The sodium count may be tough for limited diets at 620 mg. Eleven grams of protein will help keep you feeling full until lunch.

Jack in the Box: One to Avoid

Steer clear of the Steak & Egg Burrito. Jack in the Box fills a flour tortilla with scrambled eggs, steak, hash browns, and cheese. It has 788 calories, 48 g fat, and 14 g saturated fat, and 1,856 mg sodium. The burrito does provide 32 grams of protein, but it takes a big chunk of your daily fat and calorie limit.

Jack in the Box: Better Bet

The Breakfast Jack is a hamburger bun with fried egg, ham, and American cheese. It has better nutrition numbers, with 283 calories, 11 g fat, 4 g saturated fat, and 16 g protein. As with many fast-food items, the sodium is high: 780 mg.

Starbucks: Not the Best Choice

The Cranberry Orange Scone is one of several high-fat, sugary treats at Starbucks that probably won’t keep you full until lunch, despite a hefty calorie count. Sweet treats like this icing-topped scone vary in flavorings by restaurant, but any scone is going to be buttery. This one has 490 calories, 18 g fat, 9 g saturated fat , 2 g fiber, and 8 g protein.

Starbucks: Better Bets

The Spinach & Feta Breakfast Wrap is a better pick. It’s easy to eat out of hand and has 290 calories, 10 g fat, and 3.5 g saturated fat. Lots of protein (19 g) and fiber (6 g) help keep you full.Steel-Cut Oatmeal with Old-Fashioned Rolled Oats is another good choice at 160 calories before toppings. Or try the Greek Yogurt with Honey Parfait with 260 calories.

Subway: Not the Best Choice

The 6″ Sunrise Subway Melt can be too much for some low-calorie diets. Turkey, bacon, ham, cheese, and egg provide 32 grams of protein. But the total calories and fat run high. It has 430 calories, 17 g total fat, 7 g saturated fat, and 1,500 mg sodium.

Top Foods for Calcium and Vitamin D

Your body needs calcium and vitamin D. Are you getting enough?  Many people don’t.

The best way to get more calcium is from your diet. You probably already know that dairy products — such as milk, cheese, and yogurt — provide calcium. Other foods that are high in calcium include:

• Spinach
• Kale
• Okra
• Collards
• Soybeans
• White beans
• Some fish, like sardines, salmon, perch, and rainbow trout
• Foods that are calcium-fortified, such as some orange juice, oatmeal, and breakfast cereal

Foods that provide vitamin D include:

• Fatty fish, like tuna, mackerel, and salmon
• Foods fortified with vitamin D, like some dairy products, orange juice, soy milk, and cereals
• Beef liver
• Cheese
• Egg yolks

To get vitamin D from food, fish is a good option. Six ounces of cooked salmon has more than 600 international units (IU).

How Much Do You Need?

Here’s how much calcium and vitamin D you need every day, according to the Institute of Medicine.

Calcium

• Children 1-3 years old: 700 milligrams (mg)
• Children 4-8 years old: 1,000 mg
• Children 9-18 years old:  1,300 mg
• Adults 19-50: 1,000 mg
• Women 51 to 70: 1,200 mg
• Men 51 to 70: 1,000 mg
• Women and men 71 and over: 1,200 mg

Vitamin D

• Age 1-70: 600 IU
• Age 71 and older: 800 IU

Your doctor may recommend higher levels of calcium and vitamin D, especially if you aren’t getting enough of them or are at risk for osteoporosis.
by:
NILOFER KHAN
Helpingbrainz.org